When you are on a mission, even life attempts to throw lemons at you. Attacks start to appear out of nowhere. There’s only one of two things you can do. Either you can make some… More
We always want it all right n o w, but of course it hardly ever works that way. We get so caught up in the moment, and we tend to forget to enjoy it all. Yes, I am telling you to enjoy the “bad” as well!
Your journey is very unique, because no one is slaying that journey like you are. No one is working as hard as you are. No one is encountering and mastering all of these obstacles that you are. Some may travel on a similar path like you, but not everyone is slaying your journey like you. That alone is your power, and it should motivate you to embrace it all.
During this pivotal point in my life, I had to learn to enjoy all of this – that’s what got me through. The struggles, the stress, the ongoing to-do lists, and the pressure was intended to make me the woman I am. Now, why would I rush through all of that? Nope, instead I chose to go through it and grow through it!
I challenge you to take a moment and reflect on your journey. You have made some progress, whether it is small or large – you made it.
Remember: You didn’t come this far, to come this far.
First off, I would like to sincerely apologize to my genuine fans who have been constantly asking me, “where’s The Brown Girl Inspo?” I quickly learned that my work here on this platform is definitely not in vain! So, thank you.
Some may know that recently, I have encountered a very pivotal point in my life. So much for a tough semester, kicking deployment’s butt, protecting my peace, facing adversity, enjoying my journey, chasing my dreams, slaying ALL of my goals, because I survived it all – and there is so much more that I wish to speak on at a later date. In a nutshell, I have been busy and very productive.
Along the way, I have learned so much and I am very thrilled to share all of this inspiration with you. Stay tuned, because SHE IS BACK!!!
Let me guess… If you don’t have it altogether by a certain age, then that means you’re failing? Why should we put a date and age on greatness? The answer to that question is slightly affiliated with society and what it teaches us. So, one last question… When discovering that you’ve “failed”, what do you do? Give up? Go into a depression? Become envious of others? It’s safe to stop here, because you and I both know how this story ends. I repeat: You cannot put a date on greatness!
Why are you rushing greatness?
Greatness takes time and a whole lot of patience. Think of it this way… When someone is rushing you to get dressed for a hot date, what are your thoughts? I know for me, I love to take my time. The end result proves why the wait was worth it (ask my husband). Treat your future the same way. Take your time, and be patient enough to see the results in the end.
Keeping up with the “Next”?
Let me just say this… What’s for the NEXT, is for the NEXT. Much like so, what’s for YOU, is for YOU. That’s all that you should be concerned about – what’s for you. Paying attention to someone else only puts you far behind.
A quick example of this:
- Your dear friend just graduated with her Associate’s degree. She tells you and you add your unworthy two cents by saying, “Oh, congrats but you need to catch up. I got my Master’s.”
Run, honey! That’s not your friend. Real friends know that slow progress is better than no progress. Go at your own pace – you don’t have to keep up with the “Next”.
Create a life that you love. As long as happiness is your priority, greatness will always follow. Society has taught us that our happiness is wrapped up into material things. Don’t kill yourself because you don’t have it altogether. Be happy and trust YOUR process.
Love & Light,
I made a recent post about feeling guilty for changing, but this post is to simply encourage the change. This is a touchy subject, so most don’t like to address the topic. Many people think about “change” in a negative way. Society has taught us to become complacent, and to also stay stuck with what we’ve always known. If you’re okay with staying the same, then disregard the remainder of the post.
What are you afraid of?
It’s something you’ve never done before, so of course it’s going to feel uncomfortable. It’s those uncomfortable moments that triumph our growth. Meaning, the moment you agree to change, is the moment that you will begin to stumble across growth. Being afraid to change doesn’t make your situation any better. What other options do you have? Your ability to elevate is waiting just for you.
No, seriously. It starts with YOU…
Sometimes we are desperately waiting on a much bigger change (lifestyle, fitness, relationship, relocation, career, etc.), when in reality we need to change ourselves. Refusing to change ourselves will only cause us to interfere with the big change. For instance, you cannot expect to elevate in your career and still running late every morning. Why would your boss upgrade you to boss status and you’re still acting like the worst employee? If you fail to change that, then expect to stay the same raggedy employee. In the words of the late Michael Jackson, “I’m starting with the man in the mirror.” Do it – change.
Don’t worry about who like/dislike it.
Listen, you cannot go around here worrying about whether someone like what you’re doing or not. That’s the quickest way to both hurt yourself and to also disappoint yourself. If you like the change, then embrace it regardless.
Changing what’s within can only help you, rather than harm you. Let’s grow kings and queens.
Love & Light,
When researching the definition of energy, it is evident that the term power is heavily associated with the meaning. Basically, your energy is your power. Have you ever felt like you’ve wasted so much energy on irrelevant matters? You are not alone. When you know better, it is essential to do better.
Wasted energy comes in many forms. To include, these forms can be: irrelevant actions, words, situations etc. Only you can determine if something or someone is producing bad energy in your life. How do you deal with these things though? How do you prevent wasted energy?
- Ignore ignorance.
- I know that you’ve heard it a million times before, but ignoring ignorance will help a lot. Just because someone is wasting their energy by stating mean words to you, it doesn’t mean that you have to waste energy too by reciprocating those mean words, for example.
- Remove yourself.
- Refrain from associating yourself with those who condone in bad energy. It may be tough to accept at first, but sometimes you have to remove yourself from that poisonous stuff.
- Think before you act.
- Your exact thoughts should be: ‘Is this worth my energy’? ‘Is it even worth my time?’ If not, then don’t waste your time nor energy on things and people who don’t make a difference in your life.
It’s important to protect your energy because that is your power. Don’t waste time and energy on irrelevant things and people. By doing so, you agree that it’s okay for them to have power over you. Energy is very contagious. Imagine if we all produced great energy. Gain your power back the next time someone is trying to “come for you”. Laugh. Ignore. Keep it moving. There’s so much in life to grasp – use that energy to do something positive instead. Life is so much better when you stop wasting energy. Protect your energy and see how much you’ll flourish.
Love & Light,
Attaining what seems to be “unattainable” can have some detrimental effects. The feelings are often mixed, because you’re wondering how in the world did you reach the “unattainable”. You did it, though. It took a great amount of effort, drastic life changes, self-improvement, a new mindset, etc. The way you came out is incomparable to the way you came in. You changed. Accept that. Embrace that. Keep moving.
Now why in the world are you feeling guilty because you changed? Didn’t you tell your new colleagues that this change was the best thing you have ever experienced? Well, why are you feeling guilty because your old colleagues don’t collaborate with you anymore? Didn’t you tell your new wife that she has changed your life like no one ever has? Well, why are you feeling guilty because you left your old wife all alone, even after she made you feel less than a man? Didn’t you tell your new friends how relieved you were because they are so supportive of you (vice versa), you all book flight tickets outside of the country instead of club tickets every weekend, & you all have meaningful conversations about life? Well, why are you feeling guilty because your old friends no longer have anything meaningful to say, or because they no longer invite you to those places you no longer wish to visit? And one last example, didn’t you just say how excited you were to change your career/major to something you actually want to do, rather than what your long lost relative want you to do? Well, why are you feeling guilty because they’re upset with you and your decision to change?
I would like to be the first to diagnose you with: “Caring too much about things/people that are nonexistent.” Now, I’m not going to school to do anything medical related, so no I’m not a doctor. What I can do is point you in the right direction, and help you to get over it. How exactly will you be able to flourish, if you are still feeling guilty about something that you needed – change? The great thing about change is you will always see what you need to see (if you know what I mean).
- Accept it.
- You are no longer that woman/man that you used to be. ACCEPT IT.
- Embrace it.
- It’s a new day for you. There are several new things that have happened to you, and they are all positive. Love on all that new stuff! Be bold about it. That’s all you, queen/king. You did that!
- Keep going.
- Just because that old stuff didn’t carry over into your new life, it doesn’t mean that you should feel guilty about it. Of course you’re seen as “all that” and “bougie” because you are evolving. Keep going anyways. Of course they won’t clap for you like they used to when you were twerking in the club every Saturday night saying, “Get it b—“. Keep going anyways. Of course you’re going to both gain and lose people along the way. Please, keep going!
Feeling guilty about this change will only hinder you from elevating. There is nothing wrong with being out with the old, and in with the new. Be bold about this change by: accepting it, embracing it, and keep going. Flourish queen/king, because that’s all you. You did that!
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A healthy mind leads to a healthy lifestyle. Without a healthy mind, I really don’t see how one can get far. We get so caught up into our day-to-day lives, and we forget to take the time to properly care for our mental health. Before we know it, we are wrecking everything we touch. Simply because we are worn out. Mental health is very serious, and I will be more than happy to reassure you that you must make time for it. It’s definitely all in your head. The things that you think about are what consumes your energy and your time. Allow me to encourage you to practice healthy habits by allowing your mind to flourish. Let’s break away from those unhealthy environments that are stopping our mind from growing (flourishing).
Work on it.
Don’t run from it. Deal with it. Running has led you here in the first place. Stop letting bad thoughts linger on in your mind.
1. Figure out what it is. Be real with yourself. Let it all out – it’s okay!
2. Start thinking about the positive things that come from the thought. If nothing positive about it comes to mind, let it go. It’s obviously not worthy to be thinking of.
3. Create some new hobbies that you enjoy doing so that your mind won’t have time to think about unhealthy thoughts. (Write/Create a Journal, Exercise, Create DIY projects, Take some classes, Visit a beach, Read a book, Meditate, etc.)
Remember: either you are going to handle it, or it is definitely going to handle you. Declare that your mind is healed.
“That’s just how I am.”
This is the most disappointing thing to say and hear. Stop settling for the old you. It’s obviously time for you to start something new and different. You always think bad things, so your energy and mindset has been unhealthy for so long. Well, start something new. Start thinking positive. By accepting “that’s just how I am,” you are training your mind to be poisonous and you are hindering your growth. It’s impossible to flourish if you know that you’re creating bad energy, but you refuse to change it because “That’s just how I am.” Switch off your small-minded mentality and turn on your expanded and growing mentality.
These are only a few tips to help you train your mind to be healthy. At least for a start, this will help you out with the process of breaking away from an unhealthy mind and bad energy. You need a peace of mind to flourish! If you haven’t already, subscribe and be sure to leave a comment. If you need further assistance on the tips that I mentioned, don’t hesitate to fill out the contact form!
Love & Light,